We all go through days, even weeks, of not liking ourselves, not liking what we do, what we’ve done, how we did it, who we are, we compare ourselves with others (and never stack up), we don’t feel good enough or worthy enough, our self belief can take a battering and it’s so often from ourselves, we just become too critical and any small thing can set us on a downward sprial - we’re just too darn hard on ourselves!
So here are seven fabulous ways to help ‘like yourself’ all over again:
1. Don’t compare yourself with other people. You were designed to be yourself and nobody else. There is no “normal.” There is no “average.” If you rate yourself by other people’s standards, opinions and abilities you will always come up short. You are at your best when you are comfortable being yourself.
2. Stay in line with your conscience and your own moral standards. It is almost impossible to like yourself when you feel guilty. Guilt comes from doing things you personally believe to be wrong. So get in touch with your own values, and live by them.
3. Forgive yourself. When you have broken your own principles, forgive yourself completely. You’re human. You make mistakes.
4. Separate personal worth from performance. You are not your work. As Wayne Dyer said, “If you are what you do, then when you don’t, you aren’t.” So build your self-worth on your infinite value as a magnificently designed, intricately crafted, human person. Your ultimate value comes from being human. And you are a human being, not a “human-doing.”
5. Accept compliments from other people. Don’t say, “Well, it was really nothing.” Instead say, “Thank you very much.” Receive compliments and allow them to build you up. Savor them.
6. Give yourself compliments. Mark Twain said, “When I can’t get a compliment from anyone else, I pay one to myself.”
7. Use this affirmation: “I like myself.” Say it with feeling. Say it in your mind throughout the day. Say it out loud when you are alone. Say it 10,000 times over the next year. Soon you will fully feel it.